Why do nice guys finish last?
Nice guys from a woman's point of view
By April Moody
Reporter,
The VOICE
It's the ultimate question. Every poor guy that wonders to himself why he was left on the backburner by a girl, has asked himself this question. Well listen up all you nice guys, because after some serious thought, I have the answer, straight from a female herself.
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Nice guys may be nice, but in the end, the result is the same feeling of dejection as yet another rejection causes them to wonder what they are doing wrong and ask themselves the ultimate question, "why do nice guys always finish last?"
First of all, what do I mean by "nice guys"? When I think of a nice guy, I think of that guy who opens doors for me, calls me when he says he's going to call, compliments my hair. He likes to use words like "beautiful" versus "hot" and he always brings roses when I'm down and depressed.
A nice guy likes to make girls happy, the right way. He likes to help her even when she doesn't need it, he likes to make her feel good. And he succeeds, every girl likes to be flattered, believe me, even if it does creep her out. Which brings me to my ultimate point.
It seems there are only two types of guys in the world, the nice, insecure guy, and the inconsiderate, confident guy. When it comes to deciphering between the two, girls like confidence. It's not like women see that you're nice and despise it. It's not like that at all. It's something inside them, an innate desire to be cared for and protected, that will keep the majority of women from turning to the nice guy.
Nice guys can comfort, protect, and care for a girl. They have this quality in abundance. However, their lack of confidence causes a girl to think to herself, "how is he going to take care of me when he can't take care of himself?". If you don't believe you have something to offer, you don't, regardless of what the truth actually is.
You may have the best qualities in the world, but at the end of the day, if you can't stand up and do it, your sincerity means nothing. Those mean, cocky guys have one thing you don't: initiative. Honestly, girls don't like either type all that much, but since the perfect guy apparently doesn't exist, we root for confidence.
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Nice guys from a nice guy's point of view
By Eric Carroll
Advertising Manager,
The VOICE
Nice guys are not nice to everyone; it is human nature to not get along with everyone in this world. For example; our relatives, we all have a family member who makes us wish that a religious group would try and convert us instead of spending even 5 seconds with them.
Time and time again we guys hear a female say, "I wish I had a nice guy," yet this same request is not fully explained, and if you don't believe me go ask, I'll wait. Didn't find one that honestly answered the question did you?
It is not their fault completely, they just don't know, and the female is an emotional creature. Unlike males, who are creatures of habit, and yet we still shock the opposite sex with the crap we do.
All guys are nice guys, and every one of us has what a woman wants; the difficulty is just trying to match that up with the woman we are interested in.
Women please don't just say, "I want a nice guy," go further with that and explain to us what a nice guy is to you. And give details; men love details.
We can do so much more then open a door for you, kill a spider even though we would rather blow it away, and give you compliments.
Please do not forget that we can hold just your hand and elevate your whole world. Hold your hair and calmly rub your back as you worship at the porcelain prince. We have the power to say the right words to brighten your day. And we know how important you are and are willing to tell you without reminders.
Do not overlook the guy who is shy or gives off the impression that he has no confidence; he may just be uncomfortable in the situation he is in.
Women, we will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, the same way you treat us, so be kind.
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